Resolving Wedding Guest List Disagreements

Finalizing a guest list is one of the biggest sources of wedding-related arguments (probably second only to agreeing on finances)!
Working with as many brides and grooms-to-be as we do, we’ve heard it all. So, if you and your fiancé are fighting over who to invite, you’ve come to the right place. We’ve compiled some common sticking points that we’ve seen couples wrestle with during the planning stage, as well as some tips for compromising.

These are the most controversial issues when it comes to your guest list:

  • An Appropriate Number

How many is too many guests? This question may seem straight-forward, especially because many couples are limited by their choice of venue. However, this question gets more complicated when you consider the fact that not everyone you invite will be able to attend. So, if you’d like to target 100 guests, does that mean you should only invite 100 people in case they all RSVP yes, or does that mean you can actually invite 120 people? This gets complicated when couples feel obligated to invite family members and acquaintances that they don’t really want to come but don’t want to run the risk of offending.

Even couples that don’t have to worry about exceeding their venue’s capacity still struggle with this question when each person has a different vision of what the wedding should look like. Sometimes one person wants a smaller wedding while the other wants a big shindig. (And, let’s be honest, the more people you invite, the more gifts you’ll receive even if they don’t all attend!)

The best way to deal with this contentious issue to be honest about your desires while still respecting the fact that the wedding should be what both people want. If one person wants a 500-person wedding and the other would prefer a small ceremony with just close friends and parents, neither one will be happy giving in to the desires of the other. Instead, aim to meet somewhere in the middle. Does the person that wants the big wedding really need to invite that many guests? Probably not. Can the person that wants the small wedding still be happy with some extended family and a wider circle of friends? Probably.

Don’t focus on the number itself as much as the actual people you’re inviting and then come to an agreement about who you really want there.

  • Balance

Fans of the classic TV show Friends will remember the episode where Chandler realizes that their wedding guest list is almost entirely made up of Monica’s family. It upsets him that he’s not going to be equally represented and begins trying to recruit her guests to his side so that it’s more balanced.

While this may seem silly in principle, it’s a common complaint (especially if the guest list is capped by the venue). While there really isn’t a good solution to balance the guest list if one person has more family or friends than the other, you can work on shifting focus away from the imbalance. Typically, the person who has fewer guests attending worries that he/she will have less of a say in the wedding as a result. To overcome this concern, ensure that both people get their say in the planning process. Be willing to compromise on things like colors, time of day, cake flavors, food and drink choices, favors, centerpieces, and so on to let your fiancé know that the wedding truly represents both of you.

  • Inviting Exes

Ex-boyfriends or girlfriends that have become close family friends pose a problem because sometimes their presence makes the groom or bride-to-be feel uncomfortable. This gets complicated when other guests expect to see this person in attendance or the ex might be hurt by not being invited.

The only compromise here is to exclude exes from the guest list if there’s any possibility that it will upset the bride or groom-to-be because it’s too special of a day to have it tainted by awkwardness or feelings of jealousy.

  • Allowing Kids

Whether or not to allow children at your wedding is sometimes dictated by the time of day and other times is just a result of personal preference. If both people agree on this issue, that’s great! However, sometimes there’s disagreement because couples understand that certain guests will only attend if their kids are welcome as well. This is where it gets dicey.

Unfortunately, there’s not really much middle-ground here – either kids are allowed, or they aren’t. Some couples may choose to have children at the ceremony but not the reception but typically the rules for one apply to both. If you don’t want to restrict attendance too much, you can set an age requirement (like ages 10+ only).

Remember, even couples that love kids may choose to have an adults-only wedding. Not allowing little ones at your wedding doesn’t make any sort of statement about how you feel about kids in general, it’s just a decision to be made for your celebration.

Some people decide it’s best to have an adults-only celebration if the cost to include children is too high or the setting isn’t appropriate for kids. Whatever you choose, make your preferences clear in the wedding invitation or speak to any couples with kids individually to explain your expectations.

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How Many Porta Potties is Too Many?

“How many portable toilets will I need?” We get this question a lot, which is why we developed a handy guide to help you estimate how many porta potties you’ll need.

Generally speaking, you’ll need one portable toilet for every 50 guests for every 3 hours, which sounds simple enough. However, the math can get a bit tricky depending on the details of your event. As a result, you may be left wondering how many porta potties is too many.

The simple answer is, you can never have too many porta johns! Okay… if you have more toilets than people at your event, that might be too many!

But seriously, when it comes to portable restrooms, more is always better because it results in:

  • Shorter Lines

More bathrooms equal shorter lines. That means that your guests get to spend more time enjoying your event, which is even more important at special events like weddings.

Shorter lines also result in greater guest satisfaction, which is crucial when you’re charging for admission or fundraising.

  • More Options

Just like waiting in line, having to walk a long way to find a bathroom takes away from guests’ enjoyment of your event as well. (It can also be a recipe for disaster at family-friendly events where there are many younger children.)

Events that are held over a wide geographic area should offer plenty of bathroom options for guests that are close to their location no matter where they are. This convenience is something that guests really appreciate because it means that they don’t all have to stay clustered in one area or walk a long way back to the bathrooms.

  • Cleaner Units

When your guests have fewer toilets to use, each one gets used more often. That results in messiness and unpleasant smells accumulating faster because the tanks get filled up more quickly with toilet paper and waste. Conversely, when your guests have more units to choose from, they get filled up more slowly. This probably won’t matter much if your event is just a few hours long. However, if you’re planning an all-day event, this can make a real difference by the end of your event.

  • Greater Accessibility

Typically, event planners will only rent one ADA-compliant unit for every 5-20 standard units. These bigger units are not only easier for people with mobility issues to use, they’re also great for families that need to get multiple children and/or strollers inside. The more total units you rent, the more likely you are to rent additional handicapped accessible units. This improves the accessibility for your event overall, which is always a great thing!

Kerkstra Luxury Portable Restroom Service Inc. provides portable restroom service across Michigan and luxury restroom trailers for all of the states surrounding the Great Lakes. Take a look at our mobile restroom trailers and request a quote today!

Planning a Rustic Winter Wedding

Pinterest and Instagram are filled with great winter wedding ideas, some of which are more attainable than others. We’ve serviced so many weddings across throughout the years with our luxury restroom trailers, that we’re pretty much experts when it comes to weighing in on seasonal wedding trends. We know what looks great and impresses guests without blowing your budget or causing needless stress.

Here are out top favorite rustic winter wedding ideas:

  • Wood

Shiplap and wooden board signs have been a very hot trend over the past few years and they’re gaining more popularity all the time!

Decorative wooden signs add more than just rustic statement pieces, they’re also functional – directing guests to important areas like the bar, bathroom, gift table, and so on! Due to their durable nature, they can also be used outside to help cue guests into where to park and how to get to the main entrance of your venue.

Barn wedding venues and other rustic locales typically already have these types of signs for you to use.

  • Outdoor Seasonal Accents

Bringing the outside in is a common theme across all seasons! Many engaged couples choose to incorporate outdoor touches in bouquets, centerpiece arrangements, and more. If you’re planning a winter wedding, you can accomplish this by using ice, pinecones, pine tree boughs, and bare branches. Whether you bring in a large ice sculpture and full-sized Christmas tree, or just use small accents throughout the venue, guests will notice these fun elements.

  • Antique Lighting

The beauty of winter weddings really shines in the use of lighting choices to set a cozy ambiance. Light sources like Edison bulbs, lanterns, and candles act as a rustic throwback while creating an inviting and warm feel to any wedding!

  • Creative Dessert Ideas

The hottest wedding trend right now is skipping the wedding cake in favor of more creative dessert choices. Having s’mores for guests or offering a hot chocolate bar with mason jars is a great way to add some flair to your winter wedding while keeping the rustic feel. If you want to go a little more traditional, you can opt for a variety of beautiful homemade pies.

Guests come to a wedding with the expectation of receiving cake, so surprising them with another option is a surefire way to excite them!

  • Cozy Mismatches

Pairing different patterns and colors is a great way to add a mismatched rustic touch to your décor. You can also experiment with different textures like fur and suede to give your winter wedding a unique look that your guests will remember.

Kerkstra Luxury Portable Restroom Service Inc. provides portable restroom service across Michigan and luxury restroom trailers for all of the states surrounding the Great Lakes. Take a look at our mobile restroom trailers and request a quote today!